A Word About Dating

Though many may not be a match, all can use some good company. Sometimes it's not so much that we walk a lonely path of truth as it is that others are afraid to communicate for one reason or another ... usually just afraid of getting hurt or hurting someone i'd say. I believe people in general are good for the most part; but, it may be safe to say a generous portion are not as skilled in having healthy relationships as we'd all like to see. For that reason, patience is a virtue, because it allows time for the turtles to come out of their shells, the rabbits out of their holes and to really get to know someone before you fantasize them all up to be something they really aren't.

Then there's the flip side that says whoever you want you won't get, because: 1) you believe that and you get what you say, and 2) people inherently want what they can't have. There's some kind of need to hunt and chase ... got to leave them a little hungry ... that's the part that not everyone likes to hear or feel, because some of us are very open and very loving and don't want to play games like that though the instinctual need should be understood. Space should happen naturally, though, with two independent adults who have their own complete lives apart from each other. Then there's some people who just want to date twice a week and others who want to be with each other almost daily and at least talk a couple of times a day.

So, when you mix preferences on top of dynamics and the fact that men and women think differently, it can seem like mayhem. So how can it all work anyway? Well, since nobody is a mindreader, people must allow themselves to become vulnerable enough to open up early on and communicate. They must be mature enough to say exactly what's on their mind. My best guess is that along our journey there are reasons why we have had the experiences that we have had. Growth is a very big part of that.

There's a lot of lonely people out there, and it doesn't matter if they are beautiful or rich, for even the homely and poor find love. I think faith can come to the rescue by moving mountains that appear impossible to climb: like the mountain of loneliness and our God-given need for romantic love. My best advice? Enlarge your circle of friends and have faith, for there's more than one match for everyone. Above all, be patient, and there's nothing wrong with masturbation.

Being Single

I have companions in myself, my family and my friends; and, since I already have found my soulmate in Jesus, I'm not looking for one. I don't need one. I don't even think I want one in a human when I already have God as my soulmate. We're all just brothers and sisters, but we do have the physical need for sex, romance, passion and love.

So, I'm just looking for a long-term monogamous lover. I'm not looking for marriage, for I believe with Jesus came the end of the law including the marriage law. You see, since love is above the law and God desires mercy not sacrifice, I will never stay in an unfulfilled or unhappy relationship for the sake of the law. Moreover, since you get sex only from your romantic relationship, all I want is a kindred, God-loving humanitarian soul with whom I can have frequent amazing great sex.

Don't get me wrong, companionship can be part of that magic, but I will never seek all things from one person, because not only doesn't it exist in this world for a liftetime, it's just not healthy. Don't put that kind of pressure on people, and don't let anyone suck the life and soul out of you. You have to piecemeal it together: get your soulmate from God and your companions from your friends and family.

Therapy and Dating

A huge word of caution: never get your therapy or be a therapist in romance, because you don't want that drain from your lover or to put emotional anchorage where lust and dopamine can fuck you too. If you look to others to satisfy different relational desires and needs in your life, you're a lot less needy. Not only this, but when things don't work out, it may still sting a little, but not for long and noone will ever shake your soul because you still have all your companions ... and your soulmate.

My Pet Peeves

Animals in the bed, house that smells like animals, men on animal's leashes (restricted lifestyle because of animals), inability to have sex because of prescription drugs, people who drink too much and blackout, jealousy, married men who flirt, people telling me what I feel, snobbery and conceitedness, smoking and horror movies.

Internet Dating

lots of good reasons
for things that I do
changing of seasons
and all the ado

don’t like hurtin' feelin's
when many men write
and I do get some ranting
from sharks who do bite

so I get off the boat
take a break for a while
from fishing for men
put my feet up and smile

but then i come back
cuz hungry I am
and when the line loses slack
gonna catch me my man !!

now who’s to say
I will admit
the best way to play
this Internet

cuz it’s hard to know
can’t really tell
who’s just for show
or just escaped jail

but the heaviest burden 'twas on my mind
the biggest reason i signed off and on
didn't wanna hurt the ones I find
since only for one I have a song

Most Importantly

Whatever you do, don't sacrifice passion, sex or romance in a romantic relationship; because, if you do, you'll either end up living without it or going off to find it in another another relationship.

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